What is Different About My Counselling Services?
We have all heard that the key to live well is to have a balanced life. Great! The problem is that we don't know exactly how we achieve this balance.
Here is an insight of how the balancing process is done:
If you perceive an event or person as causing you more pain than pleasure, more loss than gain, I will guide you to neutralise these perspectives through a series of specific, tailored questions that let you to see the other side that you are ignoring.
I will not let you run your story over and over. Instead, I will identify precisely what bothers you and causes you pain. When you answer those specific questions enough times, and in all areas of life, and in your highest values, you achieve a balanced perspective.
How Does it Work?
This is a simple process that we do naturally. Think with me:
When you were a child, you probably had a terrible, hurtful event in your life. At the time, you perceived it as really bad event or thing. Then after say 10 or 15 years, it became a funny or entertaining story to you. What happened between the event and 15 years later? Well, you changed your perspective about the event, right? But why did it take so long for it to happen? Because it happened by chance: maybe someone heard your story and commented that it also happened to them (then maybe you thought to yourself: Oh, well, I guess most people go through a similar thing). Then say 2 years after that, you hear a story that you perceived more hurtful than yours, then maybe you say to yourself: maybe my event was really not that bad after all. Then you keep compounding those types of thoughts until you think the event is either neutral or entertaining.
In the session, we intentionally do this process repeatedly and in several different angles and in the 7 areas of life, with questions that will challenge the way you saw the event or person until you have a balanced perspective of it..
Counselling addresses areas such as:
Uncover What You Love Doing in Life
What Happens In Your Physiology If You Keep Repeating Your Story?
When you keep revisiting painful past events of your life, you myelinate the neurons that form the pathway to remembering those events and the feelings and emotions associated with them. This creates a tendency to remember the very events that you want to resolve.
One of the reasons for this is that the myelination provides easier electrical signal transmission on the neurons. The more you think about a certain event, the more myelination is created on the neuron pathway that leads to that memory recall, and the easier the electrical signal will travel on that pathway. It is just simple physics: the electrical signal will choose the least resistant pathway. So you will tend to remember and recall those unwanted feelings.
The key is to create myelination on those parts of your brain that hold the key into practical action steps to resolve what is painful in your life.